"WHAT WOULD YOU DO?" MONDAY (#12)
Another Monday has crept up on us. Can You believe we are already into December and that winter is nearly upon us? Wasn't it just summer?
Anyhow, let's move into WHAT WOULD YOU DO? Monday. The question:
So your thoughts please and share why!
Anyhow, let's move into WHAT WOULD YOU DO? Monday. The question:
If you had to chose between one of the two - to be handsome or to be intelligent, what would you do, or rather chose? Keep in mind that you can only be either or - not both simultaneously.I really don't see the need to think about this particular question too much. Lets face it, it's unfortunate but so much of gay interaction is driven by looks in my opinion. You may not agree with me but it seems to be what I have observed. I find it sad at least from a relationship standpoint. So many guys step into a relationship driven by physical appearance and never fully observe and communicate with the person they are with. What happens? - relationships that just don't last. I, for one, would much rather possess intelligence, in hopes that I could engage someone in a good adult conversation and possess the thought-process capability of making good rational decisions. I guess I am hoping that a good man would recognize the pluses in one being able to articulate intelligently rather than flashin' the dimples.
So your thoughts please and share why!
posted by Tony @ 12/04/2006 12:00:00 AM
19 comments
19 Comments:
This is a hard one. In our "gay" world, so much is decided based on how we look. If you don't look exactly like the boys in the magazines you don't get far. At the same time I can't imagine not being intelligent. The looks only get you so far. At the end of the day you need to be able to carry on a conversation. So if forced to choose, I'll take intelligence.
Well, Tony, since I already AM intelligent AND handsome, ... [choke, gag, ...] LOL!
I would concur with the prevailing opinion. The temptation to be handsome is great in the Family. So many of us spend so much time primping and preening to make ourselves look good (or better)! But that kind of beauty eventually fades. Intelligence can last the lifetime, and is much more of a turn on for me.
I would add that by intelligence I do not mean some kind of geeky "smarts" or arrogant pedantry. Good, well-rounded, humble intelligence that seeks to learn and is comfortable in conversations over a wide range of subjects.
I've been involved with both handsome and intelligent, and both were liars and cheaters. I'd prefer to be handsome because that way I could laid more often. My relationships tend to be like celebrities, they don't last long. I always pick the wrong one.
I would definitely take intelligence over being handsome. Beauty doesn't last, and while it may get you in the door, I think intelligence and character keep you there.
BTW, you posess both of your choices---so it is possible :)
Tony my man, I always look forward to your Monday posts especially, as they make me think.
As both traits fade in time anyway but beauty first, I go with intelligence hands down.
I still think the real 'winner' is self confidence; I have seen rather dimwitted and not to stunning folks do quite nicely in life as they radiate their own sense of feeling OK who/what they are.
You know... I don't mean to brag, but I have the intelligence thing down pat... but have never had the handsome thing. In social situations, handsome hands down - how many of you approach an ugly man in a bar - and the approach and introduction is 9/10 of the battle... lets face it, you have to have the intelligence or you can't make it in the work world - but I guarantee you, two candidates, equal creditionals and intelligence, the better looking one gets selected everytime... we would all be very naive' to say that being attractive brings nothing to the table...
As a not so attractive intelligent man, I would gladly give up some IQ points for some handsome...
Jake is the only one who has opted for handsome. As painful as it may be to say out loud, I think we all have some sort of hidden, buried, latent desire to be handsome....even if we are never blatent in our publishing of those thoughts. I mean, I still try my best to look good every day: shower, deodorant (well, not every day), good smelling shampoo, the best of the mint toothpastes, hair product, clothes washed in yummy-scented Tide (oh, and a fabric softener sheet too)...then to the gym where we sweat with the weights, struggling to get them above our heads so our masculine hairy pits show and our biceps bulge.....oh, and we eat right too.
So, we're doing all of the above but not interested in how we look? Hum. I mean, I'm the first guy to sign up for intelligence (not that I have much) but I'm sure that I must be hiding out under a blanket, laying really still, waiting to say good looks too. Food for thought, boys, food for thought. Don't hate me.
Handsome. Ashton Kutcher. I'd make my millions as an underwear model, hire an intelligent manager, and live the rest of my life in ignorant bliss.
I'm not entirely serious, but it has its appeal, I think.
Of course, I don't know of a problem that has a single solution. So neither handsome nor intelligent is the be-all-end-all of happiness. I'm sure Ashton wakes up some mornings with his Calvins in a twist.
Intelligence - hands down. The smarter you are, the more attractive you are anyhow!
Hmmm these remind me so much of the "Lunch Time Polls" from Heathers. LOL
I would want to be beautiful, because then you probably could care less about anything and people will just give you stuff because you are pretty, plus you probably get a lot of ass! So I am going with Pretty!
Intelligence wins out in the end. As you, and many other commenters noted, the gay community is very looks-oriented. And while I wouldn't mind looking like Eric Evans, I wonder if people take a person who is incredibly handsome/beautiful seriously.
How stupid do I have to be to take the "beautiful" option? It's really a question of degree, isn't it? I wouldn't accept a brain like Einstein's if I had to look like the Hunchback of Notre Dame, nor would I accept of face and body like Brad Pitt if I had to have a brain like George Bush.
If only intelligence triumphed over asthetics, unfortunately it's that first glance so many judge us by. It is also the case in the straight world. It isn't just relationships, the "pretty people" do better in nearly all areas of society.
It's depressing but true.
Great question and post, and I would choose Intelligence as well.
:)
Thank you Lewis and Jimmi. Glad to see I wasn't going to be the only one who wanted to be pretty...
I'd choose intelligence over looks but it's true looks are an advantage.
I've seen some fugly people that have done well in life and love and then there are the Paris Hilton's of this world who should keep their mouths shut. I'll stick to intelligence.
I've also seen pics of some of those commenting here about not being attractive. I don't see anyone that I would consider unattractive.
This isn't too hard, but if I was intelligent, I wouldn't have to be ugly would I? Oh give me intelligence, can I still keep the dick I have? It's pretty.
Mike said he's take intelligence. I'm feeling stupid did I spell intelligence right?
My only hope for happiness is to find people who want to date intelligence. Cuz I ain't winning any awards in the looks department.
But me? I want em HOT!
;)
When I first read your Monday post, I wanted to leave a comment. But I found it difficult to do. Difficult because if I chose to be "intelligent" it may appear that I'm handsome. If I chose to be "handsome" it may appear that I'm already intelligent. I'm far from being either one. That said, I'd lean towards choosing "handsome." For once, I'd like to be the attractive one in the group. I really need to find uglier friends!
Since I'm already smart and unattractive, I'd choose to be handsome and stupid just to see how the other half lives.
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